Who do you want to be?

So this morning I was able to catch up on my Super Soul Sunday. I missed Dr Robin yesterday and wanted to be able to give it my full attention. So watched the interview today.
So far I have a Question: Who do you want to be?
In hindsight I always thought that I was at my best when I was newly widowed, taking care of myself, and my son, by myself. Living a "good" life. I was happy. I enjoyed the having dinner every night with my son, I so enjoyed Sunday afternoons with my Mom. I didn't have a dime. I was working 30 hours a week, just barely getting the bills paid but I was happy.
I remember taking a ride to the beach and just sitting there. I felt so blessed. It was March and there I was sitting on a beach at 7pm, it was still light and not freezing. I was Happy. I felt I was "doing it".
Now by other people's standards I was a "Poor Widow" who couldn't work full time because I needed to be in town and on time to have dinner with my son every night. I had to be the constant. I had a car, but it was borrowed and never knew when or if I'd be bale to use beyond getting back and forth to work.. Didn't know if I'd make the rent every month...."Poor Girl".
But I didn't feel that way.

So my question is:
Who do you want to be? Do you want to be happy for what makes YOU happy?
Or do you want to be "Happy" with what "Others" say you should be Happy with?

Life is all about Perception, but the only perception that makes any difference is truly yours!
You are the Star of Your life, but only a secondary character in everything else.

*This article also Featured in BoomerBuzz Magazine

Doing the "Right Thing"

Remember when I said that Someone's own perception of their life might not be as it seems to others? I also have come to realize that people react toward others under their perceptions, not always on truth or fact.
Don't people ever stop and wonder what the "truth" really is in a given situation? How about just "doing the right thing"? Oh wait, there is no "right thing" in any situation. The "right thing" is defined as whatever is right for that person. Free Will. Anybody is allowed to do as they please. There are only constraints put in place by consequences set out by (society). The choice is a personal one.Who gave "Society" the power to deem any act "right" or "not right"? The only thing for me would be when there is an "illegal" act. But even then, the defense lawyer brings about "reasons" why the act is justifiable. Who's to say what is "right" in any case, in any situation? Are we to say God???
What if you don't believe there is a God? Do you still conform to doing what is "right"?
"What is right" is what *feels* right inside. Whatever makes it easy to sleep at night. Whatever makes your heart at peace. Even for those "conscience-less" people, who fervently defend their words and actions with deflection, blame and justification there is a time when they have to lay down their heads to sleep or summate the entirety of their lives while on their death beds.
I've seen it time and time again...Words left unspoken. Apologies and hurt feelings left hanging in the balance.
I can honestly say with every spec of my being I have very few regrets. And have no "should-have's" to speak of. I actively live with a passion for peace in my heart. I wholly believe in karma and know that there will come a time to make peace and my heart is clear.
I pray for anyone and everyone who thinks that their day won't come. People that cast off other's feelings as trivial and relationships as vehicles of personal gain. I pray that they learn sooner rather than later so they can experience the peace that a life purposefully lived can bring.